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Be the Scientist

We are two weeks into the New Year.  I would imagine if you are like most of the planet, you have at least one area that you wanted to modify or completely overhaul in 2012.  Perhaps it’s your profession?  Your relationships? Your health? Or maybe you want to finish a personal project that’s been on the backburner for months or even years!

Change isn’t easy.  We are creatures of habit, and we have to use the most executive part of our brains to help create change.  Change requires focus, presence, and commitment.

Change Anything, a new book by the dynamos that created Crucial Conversations, shares their unique methodology on how to create  lasting change with embedded habits – whether it’s personal or professional

The book doesn’t boast quick fixes or platitudes.  Through their extensive research and studying real people attempting real change, they use their understanding of psychology around change to help us identify and layout the factors that both support and sabotage us reaching our desired goals.

So, what does it take? 

Here are a few examples from the book, and I have outlined more on my blog.

**Identify Your Crucial Moments   

Know Thyself.  You have all the information inside of you.  You just need to pay attention in new ways that allow for you to get clear.  When are you most likely to engage in the behavior you’re trying to change?  When are you most likely to succeed in creating your new behavior?

For example, I’m committed to running two times a week.  I have to plan the night before to run or it just won’t happen.  Other things that sabotage a run? Late night with friends.  Going to bed after midnight.

I’m committed to getting published this year.  I will only succeed at this with partners in place and deadlines.  Without a continual check in, I won’t achieve my goal.

**Create Vital Behaviors

Once your Crucial Moments are known, identify the behaviors that are essential for your success.  Look at the six sources of influence to make sure you have your vital behaviors covered!

  1. Personal Motivation
  2. Personal Ability
  3. Social Motivation
  4. Social Ability
  5. Structural Motivation
  6. Structural Ability

(All 6 working together are key!  Read more about each here.)
And perhaps my favorite…

**Turn Bad Days Into Good Data

Be your own scientist. There is always a trial and error process. Observe failures as objectively as you can.  Mind the gaps, so you can step over them the next time they appear.  Even after a terrible day, reflect without judgment on what kept you from your goal that day and what you’ll do differently the next. Great satisfaction comes in observing, learning and gaining confidence. In other words, practice makes perfect.

Now, think of a nasty little habit (or a big gnarly one) that’s getting in the way of your success and happiness.  Are you identifying, creating, and practicing supportive behavior that’s going to help you reach your goals?

I’m here to help you modify or re-create the game you are playing – helping you transform, grow, or just evolve into your future you.

Your Wing Woman,

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